Am I alone with my Fears?

March 14, 2024

How many fears are out there?

I asked the same question to my friend, Mr. Google. The answer? Countless!

But fears can be grouped into two categories – rational and harmful.

Rational fears help us be cautious, responsible, and wise. They guide us to make sensible decisions. Harmful fears, on the other hand, cast a dark shadow over our lives.


Our upbringing and life experiences shape our fears in various ways.

Let’s start with a famous quote. “A burnt hand teaches best.”

It’s all about cause and effect.

If something is hot and burns, we instinctively avoid touching it.

This method is known as adaptive learning.

For example, we see a snake and react immediately to avoid potential danger. This rapid reaction is also a form of adaptive learning.

We can also learn from others.

A child may not fear mice until they see an adult reacting fearfully to one.


In a broader sense, fear often stems from unpleasant experiences that feel like failures, shaking our belief in our ability to cope with life.

Sometimes, the root of fear is too challenging to confront, so we try to push it out of our minds. But it doesn’t work. The fear becomes conditioned, making certain situations, like public speaking, seem impossible.

Ten percent of people worldwide suffer from fears or phobias that disrupt their daily lives. These fears lead to avoidance behaviors, shrinking our world as we try to dodge fear-inducing situations.

It’s crucial to differentiate between fear and phobia.

Fear is a universally known emotion, while phobia is a specific illness that controls life.

Phobias are typically divided into three types:

  • Specific phobias, targeting a particular object or event.
  • Social phobias, where individuals fear specific social situations where they might be observed by others.
  • Agoraphobia involves a general fear of situations that are challenging to escape from, like open spaces. 

There are countless unique phobias, like anthophobia (fear of flowers) or alektorophobia (fear of chickens).

I once watched an adventure movie featuring quicksand and hesitated to step on sandy surfaces afterward. I thought I was alone in this fear, but I later discovered many others share it, known as Ammophobia.


“Every fear conquered is a testament to our resilience and determination.”

Fears have been extensively studied, and we understand them better than ever before. We’ve learned effective ways to treat them.

I can promise you this: if fear is slowing down your life, you’re not alone. Someone else has faced the same fear and overcome it.

Taking small steps to confront fear can start with watching videos or TV shows where others tackle frightening situations.

Or perhaps observing the outside world when such situations arise, or going with a friend to face the fear initially. The most challenging steps are often those taken alone in the worst possible situations.

It’s important to expose yourself to fear calmly – and combine it with meditation.


Whether it’s acrophobia or any other fear, treatment involves gradually exposing yourself to frightening situations.

The goal is to increase both the quality and quantity of exposure over time.

For example, if you’re afraid of heights, you might start with imagery exercises and continue next on a ladder, always one step higher, leading slowly to higher milestones.

For many fears, it has been possible to use audiovisual devices for practice. VR technology has advanced, allowing for initial trials from the comfort of your own home.


My life has been affected by many different fears from sharks to darkness and failure. I’m going to talk in my future posts about how I managed to overcome them and much more. I’m going to teach you how to make nearly impossible-sounding ideas or challenges possible.

In facing our fears, we discover our true strength and resilience.

Every step we take toward confronting our fears, no matter how small, is a victory.

It’s a testament to our courage and determination to live life to the fullest.


Remember, you are not defined by your fears.

You are defined by your ability to overcome them.

Each fear conquered is a stepping stone toward personal growth and empowerment. So, embrace your fears as opportunities for growth. Embrace them as invitations to expand your comfort zone and discover the limitless potential within you.

With determination, resilience, and a positive mindset, you can overcome any obstacle and create the life you’ve always envisioned.

So, go forth with confidence, embrace your fears, and live a life filled with purpose, passion, and fulfillment. The world is yours to conquer, and the possibilities are endless.

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